As a child, my parents did not take me to Boy Scouts. They took me to Christian Service Brigade, which is a Christian cult imitation of Boy Scouts. There, I found men whom I wanted to emulate, nearly all of whom expressed disgust and some level of homophobic repression. It can be challenging to find a solution that works for both gay boys and Boy Scouts, but the answer is not to cast out and separate 10-year-old kids who are already marginalized in so many ways. Let's have the difficult conversations.